Step out of who you think you should be — and start discovering who you truly are.
Sex Therapy in New York and Connecticut
Do you feel out of touch with your body, your sense of self, or your sexuality — and unsure how to reconnect? Sound familiar?
You're feeling more pressure than pleasure when it comes to sex.
You wonder if your level of desire — or lack of it — is something to worry about.
You find yourself pulling away from intimacy because of fear, shame, or old wounds.
The moments you want to feel close are the ones where anxiety creeps in.
You don’t know how to bring up what you want — or need — with your partner.
Concerns about your body are getting in the way of feeling relaxed or confident during intimacy.
Trust feels complicated — whether it's with your body, your partner, or your own instincts.​
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You may also struggle with...
Pain During Sex
You try to push past the discomfort — to please your partner, to pretend it’s not there, to keep things feeling “normal.” But deep down, you're wondering why your body hurts when it's supposed to feel good. Maybe you've stayed silent out of embarrassment or shame. Maybe you’ve avoided sex altogether just to avoid the guilt. You want to talk about it — but it feels awkward, exposing, or overwhelming. You’re stuck between pain and silence, and it’s exhausting to keep pretending everything is okay.
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Low Desire or Mismatched Desire
When one of you wants sex and the other doesn’t, the space between you starts to grow. You feel the pressure to want more — or the guilt for not wanting it at all. Maybe your desire has changed, or maybe it’s always felt different. Either way, the tension builds. You try to explain, but feel misunderstood. You’ve questioned your body, your relationship, even your worth. And the harder you try to fix it, the more distant it feels.
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Arousal and Orgasm Struggles
You're there physically — but mentally, you're anywhere else. You might feel distracted, anxious, numb, or like your body isn’t cooperating. Pleasure feels distant or unreachable. You may find yourself pretending, shutting down, or just hoping it will be over soon. You’re not sure why it feels this hard, and you're tired of wondering what's “wrong.” You want to be present and connected — not stuck in your head.
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Sexual Trauma
Something happened — maybe long ago, maybe recently — and it changed how you experience trust, touch, or being in your body. You may feel hyper-aware, disconnected, or constantly on edge. Talking about it might feel terrifying. Or maybe you’ve tried, only to feel dismissed or misunderstood. You want to feel safe again — in your body, in your relationships, in moments of closeness — but you don’t know how to get there. You’re tired of carrying this alone.
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Performance Anxiety & Sexual Self-Doubt
You’re overthinking every move, wondering if you’re doing it “right,” if your partner is satisfied, if you’re enough. Sex feels like pressure instead of pleasure — a test you’re afraid you’re failing. Maybe you overcompensate, or maybe you avoid intimacy entirely. You just want to feel present, confident, and connected — not stuck in your own head.
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Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior
You’ve tried to stop — but it keeps happening. You may feel caught in a loop of secrecy, shame, and self-judgment. Maybe you've heard labels like "addiction" or "compulsion," but you're not sure what fits. What you do know is that something feels off — and you're looking for support that doesn’t shame you. You want to feel more in control, more grounded, and more aligned with who you want to be.
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You may also want to explore...
Kink, BDSM, and Non-Traditional Desires
Maybe you’ve been curious for a while — about power, sensation, submission, control, or simply stepping outside the box of what sex is “supposed” to look like. You might be starting to explore, or maybe it’s stayed private, something you haven’t quite put into words. You’re not looking for judgment or labels — just a place where you can ask real questions, unpack what feels charged or confusing, and explore your desires with honesty and clarity. You want your turn-ons to feel safe, informed, and grounded in trust — including trust in yourself.
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Exploring Gender Identity or Sexual Orientation
You might be asking questions about your gender or sexuality — gently, quietly, or all at once. Maybe you’ve known for a long time, or maybe something recently shifted, leaving you wanting to understand yourself more fully. You’re not looking to be categorized — you’re looking for space to explore what feels right for you. A place where your identity can take shape without pressure, where curiosity is welcome, and where you don’t have to justify what you feel. You're not looking for someone to define you — you’re looking for support while you define yourself.
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Reconnecting with Your Sexual Self
You’re not broken — you’re just uncovering parts of yourself that deserve more care and attention. Maybe you’ve never had the space to explore what turns you on, what intimacy really means to you, or what it feels like to be fully present in your own body. Maybe sex has always felt like something you perform rather than experience. Now, you’re ready to get curious — about your boundaries, your pleasure, your desires. You want to feel more connected to yourself, more grounded during intimacy, and more confident in asking for what you need. This isn’t about having the “right” answers — it’s about giving yourself permission to find them.
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Meet Kelsey Greene, LMSW and Sex Therapist
Trained through the Sexual Health Alliance
My work goes deeper than surface-level talk therapy. I integrate body-based, trauma-informed methods like IFS, EMDR, and systems-oriented sex therapy to help you move from simply understanding what's going on to actually feeling the shift — in your body, your relationships, and your sense of self. This isn’t just about insight. It’s about healing at the level where real change happens — where shame loosens its grip, trust in yourself grows stronger, and intimacy starts to feel not just possible, but safe.
Our work will be shaped by you — your story, your needs, and the kind of connection you're longing for. I’ll help you explore how your past might still be influencing how you show up in relationships, how you relate to your body, and what you believe about yourself and your desires.
We’ll also work through the more practical side of sex and intimacy — things like low desire, difficulty with arousal or orgasm, pain during sex, or mismatched wants in a relationship — all through a lens that honors your values, relationships, and lived experience. Together, we’ll clear out what’s getting in the way and help you build something new: a deeper connection to your body, your pleasure, and your ability to be fully yourself.
