You might be here because…
Your cycle has become a calendar of hope and grief. You've learned a new vocabulary — IVF, IUI, retrieval, transfer — and none of it covers what this actually feels like. Your friends don't know what to say; your partner is grieving differently; the wait between appointments is its own kind of endurance. You need a space for the emotional part of this, with someone who speaks the language.
Signs you might benefit from infertility counseling
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You're trying to conceive and it's taking longer than you expected.
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You're navigating IVF, IUI, or another fertility treatment.
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You've experienced miscarriage, recurrent loss, or a difficult diagnosis.
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You're considering third-party reproduction (donor, surrogate, adoption).
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You and your partner are grieving differently — and it's straining the relationship.
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You're exhausted from performing "fine" while your world narrows.
If this is landing, you're in the right place.
What infertility counseling actually is
Specialized therapy for the emotional, relational, and identity impact of infertility and pregnancy loss. Not generic supportive counseling — focused, trauma-informed, body-literate work with someone who understands the clinical journey.
Myth vs. reality
Myth: I just need to "stay positive" — stress causes infertility.
Reality: That's an unfair burden. Therapy isn't about fixing your mindset to fix your body; it's about supporting you through a process that is genuinely hard.
Myth: Therapy is for when things go wrong.
Reality: The wait, the unknowns, and the decision-making are all worth support — before, during, and after treatment.
What infertility counseling helps with: IVF, pregnancy loss, grief & more
Infertility isn't one experience — it's a long, often nonlinear arc, and we support the whole of it.
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Pre-treatment and decision-making — When you're not even sure yet whether you want to start, or which path is right. Therapy here helps you tell the difference between fear, ambivalence, and a clear no.
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Trying to conceive (TTC) — Months and years of negative tests, the tracking apps, the slow narrowing of social life around two-week waits. We hold the grief of timelines and the strain of staying hopeful.
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IUI cycles — The hopes that ride on each cycle, the disappointment that gets harder to metabolize each time, the question of when (or whether) to escalate.
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IVF — Stim cycles, egg retrievals, fresh and frozen transfers, FETs, fertilization reports, embryo grading, beta hCG waits. Therapy supports the emotional and physical toll of each phase, and the relational strain that builds across cycles.
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Third-party reproduction — Donor egg, donor sperm, donor embryo, gestational surrogacy. We help you process the identity questions, the disclosure decisions, and the grief that can coexist with a deeply wanted "yes."
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Pregnancy loss — Early miscarriage, missed miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, recurrent pregnancy loss, stillbirth, and termination for medical reasons (TFMR). Each loss has its own shape; none of them is "just."
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Pregnancy after loss — Carrying hope and grief at the same time. Rainbow pregnancies, the milestones that feel terrifying instead of joyful, the question of when (or whether) to feel safe.
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Choosing to stop, pause, or pivot — Deciding to step away from treatment, exploring adoption, or moving toward a child-free life. This is some of the most under-supported and most important work in the arc.
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LGBTQ+ family-building — Reciprocal IVF, known and unknown donor selection, surrogacy navigation, and the emotional layers that come with building a family outside the default cultural script.
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Postpartum after fertility treatment — The pregnancy you fought for doesn't always land you in the postpartum experience you expected. Grief, identity shifts, and unprocessed treatment trauma often surface here.
Wherever you are in this arc — and whether you came in through trying to conceive, treatment, loss, or the decision to stop — we work where you are, not where someone thinks you should be.
Meet your therapist
Our approach: trauma-informed support for fertility treatment and loss
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Trauma-informed psychotherapy — especially for medical and pregnancy loss trauma.
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EMDR — for acute losses and traumatic procedures.
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Somatic work — for a body that's been poked, prodded, and asked to perform.
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Couples work — when you want to grieve together, not apart.
Frequently Asked Questions About Infertility Counseling
Do you only work with people in active treatment?
No — we support the full arc, including before (deciding whether to start) and after (integration, whether the outcome is a baby, a pause, or a pivot).
Can we do couples sessions and individual sessions?
Yes. Many clients move between formats depending on where they are in the process.
My partner and I are grieving differently. Can therapy help?
What about pregnancy after loss or anxiety about trying again?
Yes — this is one of the most common reasons couples come in. Infertility rarely hits two people the same way; one of you might be processing through action and research, the other through withdrawal or silence. Therapy gives you a space to grieve separately without growing apart, with someone who understands the specific ways infertility strains a relationship.
Pregnancy after loss is its own terrain. You're carrying hope and grief at the same time, and the milestones that are supposed to feel joyful can feel terrifying. We support clients through recurrent pregnancy loss, rainbow pregnancies, and the decision of whether (and when) to try again — without rushing you toward a timeline that isn't yours. We're out-of-network; superbills provided.