The Power of Nervous System Regulation: How EMDR & IFS Can Help You Heal
- Deanna Doherty
- May 23
- 3 min read
In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by stress, anxiety, and the weight of unresolved trauma. These experiences can throw our nervous systems out of balance, causing our bodies to stay in a constant state of alert, often without us realizing it. This dysregulation can lead to issues like chronic anxiety, insomnia, and difficulty in managing everyday stress.
But there is hope. Through therapies like Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we can begin to understand and heal the underlying causes of nervous system dysregulation. Let’s dive into the science of nervous system regulation and how these therapeutic modalities can help restore balance and foster healing.
What is Nervous System Regulation?
Our nervous system is responsible for controlling our body’s response to stress and safety. The sympathetic nervous system governs our "fight or flight" response when we feel threatened, while the parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for our "rest and digest" state, helping us relax and recover. When we are exposed to trauma or chronic stress, our nervous system can become stuck in a heightened state of alertness, making it difficult to shift into a state of calm.
This dysregulation can impact our mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to heightened anxiety, emotional reactivity, and even physical symptoms like digestive problems, fatigue, and muscle tension. However, learning to regulate the nervous system is key to healing, and therapies like EMDR and IFS can help guide us there.
How EMDR Can Help Regulate the Nervous System
EMDR is an evidence-based therapy originally developed to treat trauma and PTSD. The therapy involves using bilateral stimulation, typically through guided eye movements, to help the brain process and integrate past traumatic memories. This stimulation helps activate both sides of the brain, allowing the body and mind to process trauma in a way that reduces its emotional charge.
When we experience trauma, our nervous system can become "stuck" in the event, causing us to relive it in a heightened state of arousal. EMDR helps to reprocess these memories so that the trauma no longer triggers an overactive stress response. Through this process, the nervous system can start to reset, shifting from a heightened "fight or flight" response to a more regulated state.
By reprocessing memories, EMDR can help reduce the intensity of physical and emotional symptoms, allowing individuals to feel more grounded and in control of their responses. This results in better overall nervous system regulation and a greater sense of emotional stability.
How IFS Supports Nervous System Regulation
Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is based on the idea that our psyche is made up of various "parts," each with its own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. IFS helps individuals identify and heal these parts, particularly the wounded or protective parts that may have been affected by past trauma.
Many times, when our nervous system becomes dysregulated, it’s due to parts of ourselves—often the protective or exiled parts—becoming triggered or overwhelmed. IFS works by encouraging individuals to develop a compassionate and curious relationship with their parts, allowing them to identify and heal old wounds. This process helps integrate the various parts of ourselves into a cohesive whole, restoring balance within the nervous system.
IFS can help individuals engage in self-leadership, which involves stepping into the role of the “Self” — a core part that is compassionate, calm, and grounded. By reconnecting with this Self-energy, clients can access a sense of inner calm and emotional regulation that helps soothe the nervous system.
Integrating EMDR & IFS for Powerful Healing
When combined, EMDR and IFS can provide a comprehensive and effective approach to nervous system regulation. The two therapies complement each other by addressing both the emotional (IFS) and physiological (EMDR) aspects of trauma and stress.
EMDR helps to process and reduce the emotional charge of traumatic memories, freeing up energy that was previously stuck in the nervous system.
IFS allows clients to explore the internal parts of themselves that may be contributing to the dysregulation and helps them heal these parts from the inside out.
By integrating these modalities, individuals can access both the brain and the body in a way that restores balance and helps regulate their nervous system.
Final Thoughts
The power of nervous syste
m regulation cannot be overstated. When our nervous systems are in balance, we feel more grounded, resilient, and capable of handling life’s stressors. EMDR and IFS are both powerful tools in achieving this balance, helping individuals process trauma, heal old wounds, and reclaim their emotional well-being.
If you’re struggling with chronic stress, anxiety, or unresolved trauma, consider reaching out to a therapist trained in EMDR and IFS. Healing is possible, and through these modalities, you can begin the journey toward a regulated nervous system, greater peace, and a renewed sense of self.

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